Is masculinity toxic?
The male pattern of male conduct that has prevailed for centuries has been in check since women began demanding their rights in the mid-twentieth century. Since then, many myths involving the male’s behavior are falling to the ground, and some men raised in the old model are already living a deconstruction.
“Man does not cry,” “It is the man who sustains the house,” ” This is a fagot thing, “” My woman does not groan “are jargon that is still present, but already sound outdated for many people.
And sexuality? Is it also toxic?
If in the sociological sphere, where there is open discussion, the thing has not yet been solved. Who will then say, within the intimacy and sexuality of the individual. Men are still educated by the pornographic industry and learn, right there, how to abuse and rape a woman.
The men’s barrel is still filled with super-virile and lying stories. Man still lives on the pleasure of secret fast-food masturbation. And women still suffer from rapidity and insensitivity in bed. Toxic manhood has shaped a man who knows no sexuality beyond the penis.
He created subjects who show no affection and have no emotional intelligence. Because they have been taught to suppress their own emotions since they are small.
They are men who only take pleasure during the two seconds of ejaculation, which were followed by two minutes of penetration. Men who live behind a goal of absurd virility, have become emotional patients and can not be real humans.
And all this I see daily as a therapist. Hard, stiff, shamed men, full of fear and insecurity. With an emotional age of a child and that socially hide it all under the toxic cloth of manhood and power.
It is really sad, but humanity has lived a lot and when everything is going wrong we have to go back to the origins.
O tantra é uma filosofia comportamental que floresceu a mais de 5000 anos numa região onde hoje chamamos “Índia”. Os “tantrikas” surgiram dentro de uma etnia chamada “Drávida”. Esta era uma sociedade que em sua essência era matriarcal, sensorial e desrepressora.
Tantra is a behavioral philosophy that flourished over 5000 years in a region where today we call “India.” The “tantrikas” arose within an ethnic denominated “Dravida”. This was a society that was essentially matriarchal, sensory, and derepressing.
There was a clear veneration of female deities. After all, at that time, life came through the woman. And the man, at first, did not have an active participation in it. The concept of sin and repression related to sexuality simply did not exist.
These are masculine concepts, typical of patriarchal and warrior societies, where the use of force is predominant and governs social morality. Values, which today are typically feminine, such as generosity, care, affection, affection, creativity were cultivated by all.
With time successive invasions and wars happened in that region and much was lost. Tantra was much sought after by patriarchal and dominant cultures.
But a little was preserved. In the mid-twentieth century an Indian dedicated his life to rescuing Tantric philosophy and adapting it to Western man. This Indian became known worldwide as OSHO and the movement he created became known as neo-Tantra.
OSHO has created specific meditations for Western man. Active meditations that had high power of liberation and emotional healing. After experiencing various techniques, practices and therapeutic meditations developed by his master, his disciples spread the Western Tantric therapy that they learned.
Therefore, the main methodologies spread in the West that involve tantric massages and therapies currently have a strong influence of Osho and their Sannyasins, or disciples.
What does tantric therapy have to do with toxic masculinity?
Have you noticed that Tantric values and methods are diametrically opposed to the values of a toxic masculinity, right?
So it is no use to want to impose tantric practices for those who have not yet recognized the toxic masculinity within themselves.
That they have not shown any interest in improving themselves. But for those men who wish to develop themselves and are in the process of deconstructing backward and evil patterns, much can be done.
Tantric therapy prioritizes the development of body sensory, fluid movement of the vital energy, the movement and the release of evil emotional contents. It also deals with sensory reeducation and the expansion of the perception of the bodily senses.
All this helps to deal with the difficulty of the modern man in giving himself up, in releasing his own emotions and helps him to develop his sensorial and emotional intelligence.
In tantric massages or meditations it is very common to experience emotional catharsis like laughter, liberation and dissolution of blocks, contents and memories that were long hidden and hidden in the depths of the soul.
The man learns that everyone cries and that everything is fine. He learns that he can be passive without being fucked, that moaning and shouting can do health very well and that good is the orgasm experienced by women, which usually happens beyond the genitals and in some cases expands to the whole body.
But learn that this type of orgasm is not exclusive to women and that it can also get there. The orgasm in tantric therapy is used as a tool of dissolution of the ego. During the orgasm one lives an experience of death of the ego. At that moment the individual just IS. It does not think, it does not judge and it categorizes nothing. Just sit down. He lives often what we call the Buddhahood.
Some people laugh and cry at the same time, in a sense of deep experimentation with nature itself and communion with existence. All this promotes a rescue of our humanity. The recovery of values such as caring for others, caring, forgiveness, surrender, trust, love …
How can we live this in practice?
But how can I get started in tantric knowledge and practice?
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