Many men would like to have full, deep and special love relationships. Some would like to make beautiful in bed, be appreciated and give women the pleasure they deserve.
Others would like to unravel the mysteries of sexuality and female orgasms.
If you have these aspirations this article may give you new insights and insights into what really matters for female sexuality, but we go beyond …
Here you will have access to knowledge on how to feel your own pleasure more and better and awaken the full energy potential in both your and her body.
And not. This article is not just about sex. But wide-ranging sexuality and expanded love relationships that go far beyond “good performance” in bed.
After all, a full sexual relationship is only possible if the other dimensions of the relationship are healthy as well.
I also want to remind you that these 5 steps are based on all our experience as tantric therapists, serving men and women and our experience in couples courses and care.
So here we list what we have seen to make all the difference in most relationships.
So let’s go there?
#Step 1- Have a true connection intent
It all starts with the intention. The intention is as a direction we choose.
If you have a superficial intention, you will attract superficial relationships.
If you have a deep intention you will attract deep relationships.
So if you just want to have more achievements and accumulate women on your contact list, forget it. This article is not for you!
A true connection intention is a desire to know someone deeply. To explore, investigate and scrutinize everything that person has to offer. It is a desire to go in essence, to know and feel someone with a unique depth.
A true connection, a soul connection, usually begins with a present eye contact. But it takes eye contact that is, at the same time, truly interested in knowing the other while being brave enough to let oneself be seen.
And this is where the overwhelming majority of men sin.
There is a huge fear in men to open up, to be vulnerable, fragile. As if it were a fear of being discovered.
Studies have shown that the most appreciated trait of a woman in a man is honesty.
Honesty implies not only being willing to show your qualities, but being brave enough to show your feelings as a human being and being honest about it.
It is the ability to let oneself be discovered. To surrender to the open-hearted relationship.
And a lot of this filter happens by the look. A man who does not look into his eyes is usually afraid of being discovered.
And that is a feature that can be developed. Here at Tantra Yoga LAB we offer you a free workshop to develop deep and true connections through meditation and tantric techniques for couples.
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#Step 2- Know the female anatomy and the main pleasure mechanisms well
Not knowing female anatomy and trying to give a woman pleasurable experiences in bed is like trying to drive a car without knowing what the accelerator, brake and steering wheel pedals are.
The vast majority of men do not yet know that a woman’s main area of pleasure is EXTERNAL to the vagina.
Most female innervations and sensory agents are found in the clitoris and its surroundings.
And when it comes to penetration, it’s important to know where and how best to stimulate a woman’s G-spot. This can be decisive in taking you to new levels of pleasure.
One of the most interesting things about my discovery of female sexuality happened when I was 18 and read a wonderful book called The Hite Report.
This book is a report from a study of more than 3,000 women focusing on female sexuality in the mid-1970s. Here some unusual discoveries caught my eye:
1-Most women only orgasm with their partner when he made NO pelvic movement. This usually happened to the woman sitting on top of the man.
In other words, that frantic back and forth movement that we men love to see in pornographic movies is not as effective as we imagined. In fact, it is not effective at all.
2-The other thing that caught my attention was that most women reported not reaching orgasm. But still, what mattered most to them was seeing her partner’s pleasure and knowing that he loved her.
This really stirred my beliefs about how women are treated by men and how they are not reciprocated by the love they pour out into their partners.
But make no mistake. This is changing and fast. They are no longer as submissive and permissive as before.
This research was done in the 1970s. Women today are more demanding, empowered and no longer accept the crumbs that the men of 1970 were willing to offer.
# Step3- Don’t rush or get to the point
As a tantric therapist I have attended more than 500 women and I say the most recurring complaint I hear is, “I don’t have orgasms. My partner is too fast.”
And here it is worth going back to the above item and reaffirming one thing: The female pleasure is not in that form of penetrating nor is essentially located in the vaginal canal.
Feminine pleasure goes far beyond that.
Women enjoy a very different way from men. They are not attached to a specific event such as ejaculation for men.
For them pleasure happens in an expanded way, I would even say “holistic”. It is much more common, for example, for women to experience full body orgasms, which rarely happens to men.
That is why I reiterate that female pleasure should be explored far beyond vaginal boundaries.
The whole body is orgasmic. The whole body carries within itself a potential for pleasure.
And it is worth saying to you, the man who is reading this, that your body also carries this potential, but we are so attached to ejaculation that we do not give ourselves the right to explore other forms of pleasure.
Learn how to better develop your orgasmic potential through tantric techniques for couples.
#Step 4- Explore Body Senses Well
In the previous item I said a little about “what not to do”. Here we will talk a little more about “what to do”.
The degeneracy of pleasure is a very important step in the development of orgasmic potential in both the male and female bodies.
And God has given us 5 bodily senses that connect us with the “here and now”. But a lot of people still have sex thinking.
A person’s mind is scheming a lot of crap.
You’re worrying about your performance, trying to reach or force an orgasm for your partner, worrying about your penis. Whether or not it is erect, whether or not the erection will last until the end.
Whether or not ejaculation is coming … anyway. All this leaves man in a state of non-presence.
And the best way to get rid of all those boring things is to focus on the body senses.
The first of these is the vision. We already talked about him a little up there, about looking at the connection, feeling the presence of the other through the look … but we still have 4 other senses. Smell for example. It is a wonderful sense.
Have you seen how the dogs look when a dog is in heat?
Have you seen what the Stallion Bulls look like when they get close to a female?
If not, watch.
Smell is something that triggers incredible triggers in our brain. So exploring the smell can be fascinating.
In addition to smell, it has taste, hearing and touch.
In our free workshop we offer guided lessons so you can use some of our precious senses in a guided way based on very deep and effective tantric meditation techniques.
#Step 5- Relax, play more, be spontaneous and learn to receive
Access to the body senses is already a great way to send away that annoying little devil who keeps telling us about our erection and our ejaculation every second.
But one tantric teaching I learned from master OSHO is that not only sexuality but life must be carried with the spirit of Leela.
Leela = Just kidding.
Jesus Christ Himself said, “Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven.”
We need to keep the flame of our inner child alive, the flame of the desire to explore, play, discover and maintain a light and enthusiastic look.
Spontaneity is one of the most beautiful things a human being can cultivate. The most charismatic and incredible people I know cultivate this trait.
Don’t take sex so seriously, don’t be so hard. Dance, play. Allow yourself to receive pleasure without always having to be the “active.” Be passive too. Allow yourself to receive pleasure, explore your own body and live to its full potential.
I wish you from the bottom of my heart a light life, full of discovery and full sexuality!
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