This questionnaire is part of a 1997 experiment on how to create intimacy. The study ended with the marriage of two of the participants. It returned to gain importance after an article published in ‘The New York Times’
Mandy Len Catron published on January 9 an article in The New York Times (which we translated into Verne) and in which he recounts how he fell in love with the help of 36 questions developed by the psychologist Arthur Aron
Mandy Len Catron published on January 9 an article in The New York Times (which we translated in Verne) and in which narrates how he fell in love with the help of 36 questions elaborated by the psychologist Arthur Aron.
Although the writer has used the questions of Aron to fall in love and to fall in love with her, Aron put them in his study as a tool to generate intimacy, not necessarily loving, gradually. The goal was to help psychologists create a close relationship in the context of a laboratory so that it would be possible to manipulate and study the variables of this relationship.
When Aron tested the questionnaire, he distributed some of the participants to couples of men and women. One of the couples who participated and met in this study eventually married six months later. As Aron explained to Wired magazine in 2010, “the last time I contacted them, they were still together.”
Meaning, this questionnaire, designed to get people to open up a little bit, really works. We reproduce it below if someone wants to test it (under your responsibility). The original study requires that one be completely unknown. It is recommended to employ 45 minutes: fifteen for each set of questions, although both Mandy Len Catron and these two Guardian volunteers needed more time. Participants should read aloud one question each, although the two should answer them all.
When they finish the questionnaire, the two should walk away and answer the questions asked by the researchers. In the original study there is no mention of needing to look into the eyes for four minutes at the end, but it is not inadvisable: it worked for Mandy Len Catron.
13. If a crystal ball could tell the truth about you, your life, the future or anything else, what would you ask?
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