Who has never consumed a little porn video? Most men are urged all the time through pornographic, sexual stimuli.
But does it bring you good results? How to evaluate the impact of this habit on your love life? After all, does pornography bring more benefit or harm?
In this article we will try to answer what are the impacts of pornography on a man’s life and what we can, as men, do to improve our sex life and have a fuller and healthier sexuality.
A first important factor to evaluate is the type of orgasm that pornography induces us to.
The psychogenic orgasm
Psycho what ???
Calm down I explain.
Most of us men grow up consuming an incredible variety of pornographic materials. Magazines, movies … in a masturbatory culture that is closely linked to “mind-created” pleasure.
Based on the imagination and scenes created on our mental screen.
That’s why I often say that most men don’t know what a “real orgasm” is. Because the psychogenic orgasm is not a complete orgasm.
It is not connected with body sensoryity. It is an orgasm that is dissociated from the sensoryity of the body. It is as if we did not exist as a physical body.
And when it becomes a habit, it creates within our bodies “addicted or repeated neural pathways”. Our bodies get used to always responding in the same way.
And most of us are very conditioned to have such “psychogenic orgasms”, especially through the consumption of pornography and masturbation.
Okay, but what’s wrong with that?
Evil is in the habit of taking pleasure in a way that does not take into consideration another real person, who has real needs, wants and expectations.
And when you are in a “real” relationship with a “flesh and blood” person many reflections of these habits appear in your body and emotional state.
It is as if the body “expected” the usual stimuli, but a whole new situation presents itself.
At the moment this transaction is necessary to take into account the “exchange”, “connection”, surrender to the other … things that do not exist in the practice of consuming pornography.
Which ultimately leaves us on alert, tense, apprehensive and afraid of failing.
And it directly affects the relationship we have with our partners.
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The relationship with women goes to the marsh
The relationship with women goes into the doldrums when we absorb the culture of the porn industry and here I can cite at least 4 evidences
1– The first factor I mentioned above and shows that when you are used to pornography you do not consider that there is another being there, which has expectations, needs and desires.
2-The second factor is that female pleasure, in most of these movies, is shown as if they like to feel pain and as if they love a giant cock and penetrate deep.
There is nothing more distorted and unreal than that.
I think you should know by now that the main female pleasure organ is outside the vaginal canal, not at the bottom of the vagina, right. It is the organ that suffers most from loneliness and abandonment in sexual relations, the clitoris.
They don’t want a giant cock going deep. Much less want it at the first moment, as most men do.
A porn movie will definitely not help you please your beloved. Quite the opposite.
3-The complaint we receive most from women in our care is: “I have no orgasms, my partner is too fast.”
And why this happens? Because men want to go straight into penetration and think that performing well is “penetrating without ejaculating for a significant amount of time”.
This is another lie that pornography tells men and most of them do not even realize that it reproduces these practices so disconnected from reality.
Before they want a giant deep-penetrating cock they long for connection, intimacy, exchange, surrender, spontaneity, sensitivity.
And this you will rarely see in a pornographic movie.
It is a culture that simply excludes women’s needs and puts them in a very different position from what they occupy today in our modern world.
The relationship of man with his own body
Another very important thing we need to look through is how pornographic movies influence the vision and expectations that man creates for himself.
1-The first issue has to do with penis size. Man’s masculinity should not be measured by the size of his penis.
This creates a feeling in the man that his penis is never big enough and can do significant emotional damage.
To give you an idea, according to a survey released by One Library “Only 2.28% of men are of a size considered a candidate for a penis enlargement operation. However, according to other recent work, 85% of women are satisfied with the size of the penis enlargement.” partner’s penis, compared to 55% of men, 30% less satisfied than them. ”
2-The common man does not use his full orgasmic potential. Often due to ignorance of new ways of feeling pleasure. The habit of conventional masturbation leads you to enjoy yourself in a very limited way. Normally pleasure is only related to penetration or simulation of penetration through masturbation.
Many men do not know, but it is possible to experience dry, multiple orgasms and full body orgasms. But this is not possible if you stick to the habit of conventional masturbation as your primary source of pleasure.
And luckily all that can change. It is possible that man knows all his untapped orgasmic capacity through sensory development techniques, meditation techniques and couple stimulation.
There are techniques of using the body senses to enhance the ability to feel and live orgasms dissociated from “psychogeny”
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Is it possible to improve my sexuality?
As I said above, the main complaint of women is “I have no orgasm, my partner is too fast”.
And men live tense, preoccupied with performance that most of the time has nothing to do with what really brings sexual satisfaction to both themselves and their partner.
Most people are not sexually happy.
Sex education in a man’s life is mostly ruled by the porn industry. The porn movie is often that man’s main teacher.
After all, is there a school about sexuality? Are there teachers who teach about pleasure, about intimacy, about exchange in a sexual relationship?
And that is why we are here writing this text. Because we need to become aware of and change the way we deal with our sexuality.
Because a freer, loving, soooo much more pleasurable and conscious sexuality is possible.
My name is Júlio Marques, I am a sex therapist, tantric therapist and I developed with my partner, who is also a therapist, a complete course on sexuality and tantric massage.
If you want to get started with free material today, I recommend you take our free workshop, but if you want to dig deep and have access to full material consisting of detailed, real model video lessons, check out our full course on sexuality and Tantric massage.
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